Am I being intentional?

You may have read this title and gone “what in the world do you mean being intentional?” If you have then that is great, I’m going to teach you something that I’ve been trying to learn myself.

For the past month or so I have had the word “intentionality” on my heart and I didn’t really know why. The Oxford Dictionary definition of intentionality is “the fact of being deliberate or purposive”, to me this is something I know I need to work on. I feel like sometimes I tend to do things for the wrong reasons, especially when it comes to social media. I’ve found myself buying things or saying things to try to get myself to move up in the world instead of creating something enjoyable or doing something nice for people. I always said to myself when I started this blogging journey I would only be genuine about my comments and my content (which is true and I’ve stuck to that) however recently I’ve found myself commenting on posts or writing content to gain myself followers or views. That just isn’t the sort of person I wanted to become. So in the past few weeks I’ve decided to only comment something on a post or tweet when I have the best intentions at heart, so to support the person or make them happy not to get a comment back. It is such an important thing to actually have the right intentions even when the action is good. I want to be the person who goes out of their way to do something to make someone else happy, that is who I strive to be because I want the light of the Lord to shine out of me and I want to display good virtues at all times.

In my personal life I was becoming much less intentional, I was doing things for gains and I also just wasn’t making enough effort with people. I wouldn’t talk to friends for weeks because I just didn’t feel like it instead of checking in on them to be a good friend. I was just getting lazy with my intentions and it isn’t good enough. I’ve found multiple signs that this is meant to be something I need to be working on such as the scriptures I’ve decided to read, quotes on Pinterest, and videos on YouTube suggested showed me all about the concept of intentionality.

Recently when I was reading 1 Samuel chapter 8 I saw the problems which were brought by not being intentional. If you’re not familiar with that scripture it is about Israel demanding a king to rule over them just like the other nations. Their intention was not to be ruled and supported effectively, it was more about being like the other nations, and therefore their intention was wrong. Samuel prayed about it and the Lord told him to warn them that this king will cause problems and that they already have a king in him however they decided that they still wanted this king and the Lord told them that he will not answer their cries when they inevitably call upon him. This made me see that my intentions have just as much of an effect as my actions which is a scary thought.

So I have decided to live my life much more intentional, and so this is my introduction to intentional living. Living in an intentional way really seems to pull out what you want and what you don’t want from your day, it allows you to see what you are giving your efforts to and what you’re not. One of the pieces of advice I’ve taken strongly about intentional living is about accepting and taking responsibility for your life and your actions. Intentional living is about making the hard choices and owning them, this is what comes after the questions you ask yourself. I think that we make excuses to why we can’t or won’t do things because we want to feel better or look better but at the end of the day you’re just hiding behind it, if you want to work to get more money for xyz then own it and if you’re not prioritising people own the reason why and if it doesn’t sit right change it.

Steps I am taking to become much more intentional:

  • Before I act or speak I ask myself “why am I about to do this?” And if my answer is something fake or based upon something materialistic then I will not do it
  • I am trying to keep things that are important central to my actions. For example I will put happiness at the centre of my encounters with people. To me that means that whenever I say or do something for someone I will make sure it will end in happiness and only aim for that happiness. That way I am removing any other agendas
  • I am focussed much more on my motives than the actions I do. If the motive is superficial I will not do it.
  • I will keep the Holy Spirit at the centre of my decision making. I think to myself what would Jesus do in this situation and follow suit with that instead of acting upon my actions.
  • I will change my language so instead of “I don’t have time for that” I will say “I am just not making it a priority right now” because at the end of the day there are no excuses and so I just have to own it

How are you going to be much more intentional in your life?

Thank you so much for reading today and I hope to see you around this place again soon!

Alex xx


  1. This is something I am working on as well. Part of it for me in this process is also “intentionally” bring more present in the moment and appreciating your surroundings. It makes a huge difference in finding gratitude in the small things! 💗

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  2. I really like how you listed out the steps you’re taking for being intentional – especially with putting Christ at the center. It’s so easy to get caught up living for ourselves that we forget that sometimes the way we want to respond in a situation may not be loving to others,

    Also, love the thought of de-prioritizing things as opposed to avoiding! That is a great way to look at things when times get hectic!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and for your kind kind words. Yeah it’s something that I’m really wanting to focus on to really get the best out of my life. It is a true reflection of what is happening but we just don’t want to admit it! Alex x

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